Here is the harsh truth – you created your life.
No one else but you is responsible for what your life looks like today. I know that may sound incomprehensible to some but trust me, it’s the truth. The totality of your current life comes down to a series of decisions that you make every day. Big or small, repeating or new, these decisions transform and shape your world. The irony that is lost on so many of us, is that we are both the cancer and the cure. We alone hold the keys to our happiness and anything outside of that truth is fallacy. HOW DID I GET HERE? Recently, I was whining to my husband about how many of my prior jobs were not what I wanted when he said something that stopped me in my tracks. He said “Here is the brutal truth that no one tells you - You chose those jobs! You went for a job that involved too much travel – you said you liked to travel. You took a job that promised a lot of money and that turned out to be a lie, and you still chose the job!” My mouth dropped open and… I had nothing to say. I realized he was right. Whether you are unhappy in your relationship, your career, what your body looks like, where you live or anything else in your life, you choose it. No one forced you to live in a cold climate that you hate and grumble about every day. No one forced you to stay in a job that sucks, that doesn’t allow you to use your talents and gifts. No one is forcing you to stay with your current spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend that you can’t stand. You choose all of the above. It wasn’t one decision either, it has been a series of consistent decisions that you have said yes too that has shaped exactly what your life looks like today. IS THIS YOU? Have you ever been on your way to work, slugging through the long one hour commute each way, going to a job that you despise? You’re making ok money, but you know you are not anywhere near where you want to be and you are desperate to make an impact on the world? You hate where you live – you live in the snow and are slowly dying a little each day because the climate you really love is the beach (or vice versa). Life is too short not to live where you want to live, be who you want to be with and do what you want to do. It sounds easy to say and harder to do and that’s the oldest lie in the book. The truth is, once you make a decision to change, all the pieces will fall into place - quickly. The bigger and more honest questions you need to ask yourself are these:
It may involve letting go of old thoughts and habits that no longer serve you. It can even look like making short term decisions that may appear foolish in the now, but reap great rewards in the future. BEING HAPPY SHOULD BE YOUR #1 PRIORITY As a recovering people pleaser, I would like to offer you some kind advice. STOP MAKING OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY AND ONLY DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU. Really, Stop! Stop trying to keep up with everyone else. The truth is no one cares what "everyone" is doing anyway. When you are in the later part of your life, you will not want to think “I made everyone happy except me”. That will be a very sad day when the reality is that THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU HAVE THE POWER TO BE HAPPY STARTING RIGHT NOW. Start living for you. If you do this, I guarantee it will change your life. The truer you are to you and what your desires are, the happier you will be. You will be in alignment with the divine being you really are. I have to warn you that this will probably bring up some hard discussions with those you are closest to, especially if you have been pleasing them and not yourself for a long period of time. They won’t understand the “different” direction you are taking with your life. They may get mad that you didn’t consult them first before you made some of these new “decisions”. I would encourage you to move forward with your choices anyway. The biggest failure you will have is if you don’t try to make yourself happy. You will never know your true potential, using all of the gifts at your disposal if they sit in a dark corner of the room accumulating dust. In other words, bring them out into the light where everyone can admire them for what they are - gifts. Your failures will help others and the more you express who you are in your highest form, the better off everyone will be. START RIGHT NOW So where do you begin? Start by identifying what it is you want to change in your life. We will call these Major Goals.
Choose your top 3 Major Goals that you want to accomplish within the time period of 90 days. Take each Major Goal and work backwards, adding in all of the detailed steps needed to accomplish each goal. These are called Mini Goals. Each of your Mini Goals, when combined are the steps that will accomplish your Major Goal. This way of reverse engineering is easy to set up and is fluid, meaning you can add in and subtract Mini Goals as you see fit. The Mini Goals allows you to course correct quickly to reach your Major Goals on time. If possible, set up a deadline for each Mini Goal. Here is an example of what your Mini and Major Goals could look like: Major Goal – Get a new job by April 30th Mini Goals – Rewrite my resume by March 30th Mini Goal – Start narrowing down the top 10 companies I want to work for by April 3rd Mini Goal – Begin to send out 15 resumes each week beginning on April 4th You get the idea. YOUR TURN What important goals are you going to dedicate yourself too this next 90 days? Write them down including your Major and Mini Goals. Make sure that you add dates for each goal which allows you to course correct frequently. It’s time for you to start living the life you were meant to live. You deserve it.
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3/22/2018 02:25:22 am
When you face the responsbility that you are the creator of your own reality it can change so much in your life, I know I am living proof. Great post!
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3/22/2018 08:08:08 am
I realized this truth a few years ago. It can be a bitter pill to swallow and I think some people won't realize it because of their pride. I have tried so hard to get my children's father to see this. He sees them every other weekend and only then. He says he wishes he could see them more, but never makes a single effort, only blames situations and circumstances. It breaks my heart how he can spend 50 hours a week at a job he hates with a passion but so little time with his daughters whom he claims to love. And that is the bitter pill most people can't swallow.
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3/22/2018 04:18:30 pm
Julie, thank you for the sage place to embrace life!! 💕 Everything that was ever done, said, or decided has brought us to this one pivotal point in time. From here on out, everything we will say, we will do, we will decide determines where we go. Thanks for this soulful advice to go for happy, with a practical plan 👍🏼 💞 Xo, Evelyn, PathofPresence 🦋
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3/24/2018 08:38:33 am
really loved this! I'm working on myself a lot at the moment and addressing quite a few things you've talked about in this post. It's so easy to complain about the things that aren't right in life without taking responsibility!
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AuthorMy name is Julie Saillant and I am an Equestrian who uses my intuitive Empathic insight to help others embrace their own gifts so they can find their life purpose. Archives
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